Jashne Aroosi - The Wedding Party
aroosi is the big celebration following the Aghd
ceremony, which is the official and contractual marriage
ceremony. The aroosi, similar to a reception, can be
celebrated right after the aghd or up to a year after
it. In modern times, couples opt to have minimal to lavish
receptions with buffets, dinners and lots of dancing.
This is very similar to a western style wedding party.
Entertainment, and DJ’s can provide a festive mood
and atmosphere for the big celebration. Iranians are
great lovers of dance so be sure to include lots of Persian
music, even if your event is mixed or bicultural. The
location is also very important and can be a home, a
hotel reception hall, a museum or the great outdoors.
Traditionally, the wedding party is paid for by the groom’s
family but this no longer applies to modern couples.
A wedding cake is very traditional and sweetens the union
at the end of the night. Pick a cake that is personal
and significant to your unique taste. Iranians tend to
party into the wee hours of the night, so be sure you
have a good DJ, lots of food and drink and your dancing
The wedding Dinner & reception
Traditional dinner in
Persian weddings is served buffet style and is not as
formal as its Western counterpart. A very traditional
and delicious dish to serve is Javaher Polo, which is
considered to be the King of Persian dishes. Javaher
means jewelry and Polo is rice. The dish is made of orange
peel, almonds, sugar, barberries, and pistachios. Not
only is this dish tasty, but it is also aesthetically
beautiful with different colors representing jewels such
as diamonds, rubies and emeralds for the marriage. For
more recipes and dinner ideas be sure to consult the
cuisine section of our guide.
the First Dance
More and more
weddings have a first dance where the couple officially
opens the dance floor. We highly recommend dance classes
that will prepare you for this event so that you can
dazzle your friends and family on this special occasion.
Our guide features exclusive information on where you
can get dance lessons. Be sure to make the dance personal
and memorable based on your own uniqueness and favorite
songs. We also features a cultural section on Persian
dance in case you are interested in performing a traditional
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Perhaps one of the most
important elements of Persian life and culture, which
can be celebrated during the wedding, is Persian music.
Not only should you make sure that you play the right
tunes during the Aghd, but you can also infuse the party
with Iranian elements if you use great songs from Iran’s
great dance repertoire. Iranians love to dance and you
better be sure that your band or DJ knows this. These
days there are many local DJ’s who have great Iranian
dance tunes. Some of the classic tunes we recommend looking
- Baba Karam
- Mobarak Baad (this is to be played
right before the ceremony)
- Aroosi Bandari
- Aroos O Damad
- Aroose Naaz
- Ghaasem Abaadi
Be sure to bring a few cousins who know the songs or some people who
love to dance and have fun. In addition, you may consider hiring
a live band. There are many that will perform or play a variety of
Persian and Pop songs. Use our guide to find your ideal entertainment.
Consider tunes that are great to dance to, no matter the origin or
time. We prefer DJ’s to bands because that way you can also
include other songs from other culture if your wedding is bicultural
or if you want to feature dance tunes from all over the world.
Photography & Video
It’s true when they
say that the day goes by very fast and the next thing
you know you are looking at the pictures or the video
of your wedding. If this is going to be your memory of
it, then do your research in finding the perfect photographer.
Look for someone who can take charge and lead groups
of people. Weddings are incredibly hectic and the last
thing you want is a soft-spoken photographer. Also, make
sure that you look at plenty of his/her sample work and
have the same artistic vision and dream of your big day.
The same applies for your Video crew. We have provided
a comprehensive list of resources for your to choose
from. Be sure to explain any important cultural aspects
of the wedding such as the Aghd so that their crew is
ready and can take shots from the right angles. Explain
your day and your ceremony in plenty of detail before
hand and be sure they know to capture the details of
The wedding Cake
The cake is a great addition
to a wedding, sweetening the life of the couple even
more than honey and shirini. For this reason, you may
want to pick a cake that suits your taste and has some
meaning to your partner. These days, bakers create the
most beautiful and modern cakes that defy convention.
For a full list of bakers, including Iranian cake makers,
go to our resource guide.
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Pa Takhty - the day after the wedding
This phrase has a literal
translation of “by the bed”. It is the ceremony
that takes place the day after the wedding when friends
and relatives of the couple are invited to pay a visit
to the newly weds to offer blessings and more gifts.
At the Pa Takhty, the couple is officially considered
some Wedding Favor
Traditional wedding favors in Iran are sweets such as Jordan Almonds
or Noghl & Ajil from the sofreh wrapped in pink or white tulle.
Occasionally they throw small gold coins in the wraps to represent
happy fortunes. These favors are very old fashioned and are recommended
only if you are trying to evoke that old-Iran feeling. There are so
many beautiful modern, customized favors to choose from these days,
that it becomes quite a challenge. We like to mix the old with the
new, and suggest having the Jordan Almonds or better yet, real Persian
pistachios in a modern package. You can use color paper bags decorated
with customized ribbons, elegant tin cans, or even an updated tulle
If you are still not convinced that the old way is the good way, you
can see if any of these favor ideas sound fabulous for you
- Deck of Cards with personal
- Elegant Bookmarks are a cost-effective
alternative and useful. Use a Rumi poem and
a nice picture of the two of you to personalize
- Gourmet Tea Packs - Buy some
good old Iranian Tea and place it in a special
favor bag complete with personal message and
- Other ideas: Fortune Cookies,
Coffee packs, Spa sets, Tree Seedlings
Top 10 Wedding Party Tips
1. Keep the food and
drinks simple and light.
2. If you decide to serve beer, offer a regular and a light version.
3. If you decide to serve wine, offer a good red maybe a merlot and good
white, maybe a chardonnay.
4. For soft drinks, we recommend offering Coke, Diet Coke, 7-up, and
5. Don't forget to serve bottled water and provide plenty of ice.
6. Create your own signature Wedding drink as the special drink of the
evening. Serve martinis in martini glasses
7. Have enough glasses, but not five different kinds.
8. Feature Persian dishes that are typical of weddings such as Shirin
Polo. See our Cuisine guide for more ideas
9. Also feature a vegetarian dish and a non-Persian dish for those who
want something more usual.
10. Get plenty of napkins and count 2.5 glasses per guest.
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PERSIAN WEDDING Speech Do's and Don't
a speech can be intimidating but it can also be fun.
At a Persian wedding, you may want to stay clear of jokes
in poor taste and anything that is not fit for the ears
of anyone's grandmother. Here are some do's and don'ts
to make sure your speech will be go over well with the
families, friends and co-workers of the happy couple:
1. DO keep it short
and sweet. This means your speech should
be between 5-7 minutes.
get inspired by quotations, poems, and
real life stories that are appropriate, funny and
memorize the speech as it will sound fake.
But take time to practice giving it in front of
a mirror or an audience to the point that you are
very familiar with its content.
get there early. Make yourself familiar
to the surrounding so that you are comfortable
and confident in your position. Walk around the
room, and introducing yourself to guests.
rush through the speech. Relax, breathe,
and exhale to allow for pauses between words. Stand
tall and straight, enunciating your words and making
eye contact with the audience.
use funny stories and past jokes but make
sure it is clean and can be heard by grandmother
and the bride's father. Keep your audience in mind
and do not say things that may hurt anyone's feelings.
apologize about anything. If you don't
highlight your mistakes, the audience will not
thank the whole wedding party and pay
compliments to those who organized and are closely
related to the event.
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What to Wear TO an Iranian Wedding
Iranian weddings and
mixed weddings are abundant all over the world these
days. The most popular month for these weddings is, of
course, the summer when the weather and the Iranian crowds
put extra pressure on that ever-present question: "What
should I wear?" In this guide, we present our top
tips and rules for a hassle-free event where you won't
feel under-dressed or over-the-top at your next Iranian
If you have ever been
to an Iranian wedding, or a mixed wedding with an Iranian
side, then you will notice that some guests, perhaps
more the older generations, are dressed in the brightest,
biggest, shiniest, and boldest outfits you have ever
seen. If you have never been to an Iranian wedding, then
it's best to come prepared for this extravaganza, as
it is the ultimate mehmooni. Because weddings are festive
occasions, some Iranians treat them as a star would the
Oscars. They pull out their ball gowns, their couture
and all their biggest jewelry pieces from their best
gold to the most eye-catching bling bling. Perhaps the
best way to create a balance between the old and the
new and the humble and the proud, is to keep a few key
pointers in mind. When getting ready for your next big
Iranian wedding consider:
1. Your Age - If you
are a younger person, don't be shy to put on some fresh
colorful clothes or to experiment with new styles.
Stay away from the boring blacks. Color is in again
and the pinks, reds, oranges and bright greens go well
with the younger look. If you are older, consider toning
the overall color of the dress down but add sparkle
and brightness by mixing in deeper reds, purples or
oranges. A good way to add zest for both young and
old of course is with jewelry. Silver, gold, platinum,
and diamonds will all glam up your outfit no matter
2. Your Body Shape
- You want to look good, so do consider your body shape
and what will fit you best. Generally if you feel good
in an outfit, you will look even better in it. Do not
wear clothes that are too tight, or too revealing.
Always accentuate your best features. Do wear a long
skirt to enlongate your legs. Elegance is always in
how you carry yourself and behave, not in how low your
skirt is or how much cleavage you choose to reveal
at someone else's wedding.
3. Time of Day - Naturally
the time of day will have a lot to do with how you
dress. If you are attending an afternoon Sunday wedding,
you may consider a summer dress that is less formal.
Generally the earlier the wedding, the less formal.
A simple wedding with an early brunch in someone's
backyard will be very different from an evening gala
wedding at the Museum of Natural History. Dress formally
for evening weddings, considering a tuxedo for men,
or ball gowns for women. Remember that if you like
to wear simple clothes, you can do so. Just add a special
accesssory to the outfit so that you don't feel underdressed.
This could be a diamond necklace, a beautiful watch
or anything that makes you feel glamorous.
4. The Crowd - Consider
the wedding couple, their style, and the style of their
friends and family. You probably have a good idea of
how formal or informal they would be. Generally, if
the couple is mixed, then there is less pressue and
expectation to get too formal. The wedding invitation
should also include a hint of the dress code.
5. Have Fun - The
best remedy for not getting caught up in the Iranian
wedding fashion dilemma is to come with an open mind,
your dancing shoes, and a great gift for the couple.
Take loads of pictures and make the night a memoriable
event for yourself and the bride and groom.
Have fun and be sure
to write us if you come across any funny Iranian wedding
Useful Persian Wedding Vocabulary
||Contractual portion of the wedding
||A Spread or tablecloth used for weddings, new years
and other celebrations. .
||Spread for Persian Wedding Ceremony.
||Spread for the Persian New Year with Seven S's.
||Congratulations. Usually decorated on the bread
or the Esfand. There is also a song that is played
during the ceremony with this title.
||The mirror used on the Sofreh Aghd.
|Sini-Ye Atelo Batel
||Tray of Spices
||Sini-ye Atel-o Batel
||Special Persian Flatbread
||Goat cheese and herbs - staple of every table or
||Assorted nuts such as walnuts, hazelnuts, etc.
||Bowl of Crystallized sugar. Kaase means bowl.
||Gol is flower and Ab is water. This word means
||Coins, usually gold coins on the spread.
||Generic terms for sweets, pastries, and cookies
||Literally "head" of sugar, the hardened
||Place mat used for praying
||Generic term for "party", with the most
common being a gathering of friends at a person's
home. Mehmooni's are usually seated events where
guests are served fruit, pastries and tea. Typically,
a full dinner is served in a dining room with desserts
and tea to follow.
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