Feature > Opinion > SETTING OUR PRIORITIES BEFORE IT IS TOO LATE BY MITRA RAHBAR
Priorities
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In the last several months I have had many clients and people I know talk to me about regret....a difficult emotion and task to confront and resolve...many of my clients and friends who have older parents and family members in other states and other countries are now facing loss and going thru grief....that in itself is a difficult transition in one's life..to lose a loved one...however, the common thread with all these people I know is that they regret their own actions or rather lack of action.....
As we get older we hope that we have learned from our experiences and those of others...we hope that we gain wisdom so we can make more intelligent decisions...for many of us who live far from our relatives and loved ones life has not been easy...it has taken us years to adjust to being far from those who raised and nurtured us....now, those individuals are far...they are older, and we are still in the prime of life, busy with daily tasks and the hustle and bustle of city life...
We set tasks each week...to do our work, socialize, make money, accomplish goals and then when we have time we may think of visiting these old relatives....numerous times my friends and clients have expressed to me how they wish to visit their parents, siblings, or relatives but they are just too busy, they can not find the 'perfect' time....many who have a mother or father in another state tell me they wish they could move to that state but it would take alot of time to set this plan in motion....then, time goes on...we forget what we truely wish ....we lose sight of time...and one day it is too late...thru the phone wires or emails we recieve the news of the illness or passing away of a loved one...we get devestated and we then start the long process of regret...of punishing ourselves why we didn't do this or the other...it is a long painful process that never resolves....
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I have decided after the passing away of my precious aunt and father to prioritize...who else would be at the top of my list besides my loved ones...time does not stand still...aging is a process and we need to sometimes sit with ourselves and truely examine what we need to do for ourselves and others...
To call those we love, to make plans to visit them, to change certain things in our lives to be closer to them is a very very small price to pay that has great returns...peace of mind and conscious....priceles....blessings.
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